Name: S M.
Gender: female Age Group:50+
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To save you married guys out there a lot of time - single looking for single. Reasons are below.
So here’s the thing : I’ve posted ads on here before, met some nice people, got burned (badly) once, but now I’m back again. I keep coming back because I’m either too lazy or too unmotivated to try another method, or my deeply buried optimistic side is trying, once again, to emerge. Maybe a bit of both, who knows!
This time around I’m going to try and be as specific as possible about what I want and why.
I’m in my middle fifties, still working full time. Also, I’m a card-carrying introvert. By the time I get home at night all I want to do is stay home. Recently my two closest friends have moved away, leaving a substantial void in my life. I miss just talking! If my ad is clicking with you so far, you know what I’m getting at - just day-to-day nattering back and forth, whether it’s in person, texting, email, whatever - it’s having a connection out there with someone who wants to hear your news, or rants or anything else that’s on your mind. I used to love getting texts at work from my friends - sharing a bit of their day with me. It’s hard to say the L word, there’s such a taboo against admitting it, but I’m going to say it all the same - I get lonely at times, and even though right now, I’m too tired at night to go out and socialize, and yes, often too damn shy, I still want to connect!
My life is pretty simple, mundane even. But I read a lot, I’m curious about pretty much everything, and I have a sometimes sarcastic, dry sense of humour. I may not have a towering intellect, but I can carry on a conversation :)
I’m going to be pretty blunt about what I’m looking for, as I discovered last time being not absolutely crystal clear about what I want and what I will and won’t bring to an online friendship can be a pain in the butt for all parties concerned.
So here we go - I work with a bunch of women, my friends were women, so I’d like to talk to men for a change! (older men that is - 40 plus) I’m not married, and have no kids. I’ve seen a lot of ads from married men in unhappy marriages looking for some kind of connection, for any number of reasons, Guys, I feel for you, but honestly, talking with someone who’s attached makes me uncomfortable.
This next part may sound odd, but what the hey, I’m trying to be honest here. I’m looking to establish an initial connection via email, yes. I know we all have to do the getting to know one another dance, which involves long emails. I used to love writing those long, once a week emails to a previous penpal, but now, for some unknown reason, the idea of it doesn’t grab me at all. Firing off five short emails in a day appeals to me. Perhaps it’s a getting older thing, perhaps I’m reflecting our sound bite society, but that’s what I’m looking for. A conversation. A day to day conversation. Nattering. Bantering. Arguing (politely) :) One that could travel it’s way from emails to texting, who knows?
And so, penpals from North America would be preferred, although if you’re from “across the pond” and are a diehard night owl, perhaps it could work :) :)
This last bit needs to be stated - I’d put it in all caps if it would help get the point across :
If you’re looking for a soulmate, partner, love of your life, I truly hope you find them. But it ain’t me. I’m single for a reason - mainly because I like it and it suits me, and at this stage in my life I think I’d probably be a crappy partner! Friend, yes. Partner? Nooo. Will that change? What’s the saying? Miracles can happen?
You want to talk about art, architecture, the environment, social media, books, flora, fauna, movies, drivers who make you cuss a blue streak, food, family, history, astronomy, astrology (lol)? An endless list.. it changes and evolves from day to day.
So there you go. That’s me. This is what I want. I hope you’re out there. I’m thinking it’s ok to say you’re lonely and it’s ok to try and reach out. Let’s talk!